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Notes for the way through.
Short, direct reads from Tonya Lanthier and the DivorcePost team.
Physics of Divorce
6 posts
Why Marriages Fail: The Physics of Divorce and the Hidden Pressure That Leads to Divorce
It’s usually the final visible stage of a system that has been under pressure for far longer than anyone realized.
Why Marriages Fail: Four Relationship Systems Inspired by Verne Harnish’s Scaling Up
Healthy systems don’t sustain themselves. They require continual investment, honest communication, intentional repair, and shared commitment.
Why Healthy Relationships Require Maintenance: What Entropy Teaches Us About Marriage
Healthy relationships don’t fail because they experience wear and tear. They fail when the wear and tear goes unattended.
Newton’s Third Law and Relationships: How Every Reaction Shapes Your Marriage
Every reaction shapes the relationship. Choose responses that create the future you want to build, not just the moment you want to win.
The Emotional Balance Sheet: How Healthy Relationships Build Trust Over Time
Healthy relationships aren’t built on grand gestures. They’re built by consistently making more emotional deposits than withdrawals.
The Hidden Cost of Conflict During Marriage and Divorce
Conflict isn’t costly because it happens. It’s costly when it continues draining your relationship without anyone repairing the leak.
Manipulation & Patterns
4 posts
Trust Your Intuition: Why Your Gut Often Recognizes Relationship Problems Before Your Mind Does
Trust your intuition—but pair it with reflection, facts, and honest conversations.
Don’t Be Confused by Narcissistic Traits: Understanding the Three Legs of the Stool
The clearer you understand what you’re experiencing, the better equipped you’ll be to make decisions that protect your well-being, your family, and your future.
What Is DARVO? How to Recognize a Common Manipulation Tactic in Relationships
The more clearly you recognize those patterns, the more confidently you can make decisions that protect your well-being.
What Is Gaslighting? How to Recognize When Someone Makes You Doubt Your Reality
Protecting your memory isn’t about proving you’re right. It’s about preserving your confidence in your own lived experience.
Stories & Decisions
4 posts
Why Most Marriages Don’t End Overnight: The Hidden Patterns That Lead to Divorce
Awareness creates clarity. Clarity creates better decisions.
Why Emotional Pain Doesn’t Stay Hidden in a Marriage
Pain that remains hidden rarely stays contained. It eventually finds another outlet.
A Story from a Friend: My Husband Isn’t the Man I Married: When Career Success Changes a Relationship
The strongest couples don’t stop growing. They make sure they’re growing in the same direction.
Why Good People Make Bad Decisions During Divorce
The quality of your future is shaped less by what happens during divorce and more by the decisions you make while going through it.
